Many people approach forgiveness as a need for justice. At the very least they need that guy to acknowledge what he did. There is a ‘comeuppance’ factor, a price to be paid, a condition that must be met. Justice must be done!<\/p>\n
But that’s not forgiveness at all – it’s revenge.<\/p>\n
Revenge is conditional, It\u00a0has nothing to do with ceasing to blame or releasing resentment. It’s payback, pure and simple.<\/p>\n
The reason revenge can never work is because I’m still giving you all the power. I’m basically saying I cannot feel good until you do something I want you to do, or something is\u00a0done to you that I want done. In other words, you’re still in charge. And I’m still powerless.<\/p>\n
Blame, resentment and judgment all operate on the same level and as Albert Einstein wisely said, \u201cYou can never solve a problem on the level on which it was created.\u201d<\/i>\u00a0 -which means I will never be able to release my resentment as long as I am still in judgment. And make no mistake, judgment and justice are synonymous, so if I need justice, I’m still judging, and if I’m still judging, I’m still blaming. You get the picture.<\/p>\n
Einstein also said, \u201cIf your happiness depends on what somebody else does, I guess you do have a problem.\u201d<\/i> Amen to that.<\/p>\n
Our goal in ‘The Forgiveness Story’<\/em> process is to remove the problem, to make it a non-issue. To do so, we must remove ourselves from the level of the problem and deal with it on the level of pure Truth. We will focus on the only thing we have control over; us.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"