1. Forgiveness is all about me. It is about me letting go of my resentment. It doesn’t matter what happened, who did it or how terrible it was. The key word is ‘me’. I am the only one who can let go of my resentment. Forgiveness is absolutely, totally and completely an inside job.
2. In like manner, forgiveness has NOTHING to do with the other person. In fact, there is a good chance that other person doesn’t even know he needs forgiving. And it doesn’t matter anyway because eventually we’re going to bypass that other person completely.
3. Consequently, forgiveness is not something you bestow on someone, or something they earn or deserve. Forgiveness is entirely a state of mind. It is a change in perception from powerlessness to empowerment, from separation to connection.